Friendship or Money-Ship
You might be able to find out what a friend want if you paid more attention to their actions. If you would just ask them, “What do you need to get you through this week?” The answer would probably start with, “I want.”
If you greeted them with a hug each time you meet.
Maybe If you feed them a comfort food meal and make it one of their favorites (not saying become enslaved by cooking their meal every day)
If you listened to them complain about the same problem every time, just to be an ear and not to tell them what you think. You know they won’t ask.
If you called them at least once a week just to say hello.
If you just took a long walk once a week with them to let them know you care about their health.
If you would invite them to meet you at the library to pick out a favorite book, then tell the other what’s going on in the book.
All of these friendship buds could turn into a beautiful flower if you watered them with doing and not make a friendship about money but about caring.
If you only get together when spending money, most people tend to impress the other with how much this meal cost, how much this activity cost, or how much it costs to go here and there for vacation. If it’s always spending way, do you have a friendship or a money-ship? Don’t get me wrong, it is good to have money and I also believe everyone should pay their share; but why does it always come to having to pay money for fun in a friendship. Or it may come to friendship be dissolved your friend doesn’t have as much money as you have or do you think the friendship is really worth it?
I know this may not be a problem for some, but I was just thinking about it. Because I have lost a couple of friends because of this problem and I know they paid my way out of the goodness of their hearts. I don’t know if they were thinking of status or you are who you hang with when they decided not to befriend me anymore. But I’m not mad at them and I feel where they’re coming from (she broke). What do you think?